ARE YOU GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT?
Do you treat your business associates
better than you treat your spouse? What would your marriage look
like if you gave it the same respect you give your colleagues? What
would your career look like if you treated your colleagues the way you
treat your spouse? Imagine sending the following memo to your
partner after the honeymoon.
To: My New Business Partner
From: Your New Business Partner
1. While interviewing for this
position I led you to believe I was very impressed with you...over the
next few years I will let you know all the ways I am not satisfied with
2. I don't like conflict so our
partnership will work best if we do things my way.
3. I have already experienced disappointment
in earlier jobs. I have had employers who did not value me.
They had unrealistic expectations of me and were insensitive to my
needs. Therefore, I expect you to give me everything that was
missing in my former business relationships.
4. I will put forth my best effort to
create a healthy business relationship with you, except at those times
when I am preoccupied, sad, angry, busy, bored, doing something else,
playing a computer game, working out or talking on the phone.
Write a memo to your partner using the above as a guideline. Be as
honest as you can be about the "contract" you have established
with your partner. eg. "I will greet you warmly at the end of the day
unless I had a bad day in which case I will find something to criticize
about you." "I will always check with you when making
plans to play golf on the weekend unless I think my plans will make you
mad in which case I will wait to mention them until Saturday